Many researchers have set out to answer this question.
In order to classify their subjects’ differences, compatibility researchers often use personality typing.
As we become more progressive in our relationships and more open to equality, differences in this preference area may become less important.
The 16-type system developed by Isabel Briggs Myers is the most commonly used system of personality type in the world, and provides an easy-to-understand basis for studies on compatibility.
The 16-type system asserts that our fundamental differences in thinking, making decisions, and organizing our lives can be understood by measuring our preferences in four key areas: When researchers have analyzed couples’ satisfaction, the factors most associated with happy couples were those that we’ve heard all along: good communication, common values and interests, and the ability to work out disagreements calmly and openly.
The last three scales—S/N, T/F, and J/P—play a complex role in determining compatibility.
These scales have a fundamental effect on the way we communicate and prioritize our lives, and so have the potential to cause misunderstandings, miscommunication, and opposing goals in relationships where preference differences exist.
Some examples: We can see that overall, couples find more satisfaction when paired with a similar partner.
However, researchers stress that in all of their findings, communication, common interests, and the quality of the couple's friendship were the most crucial factors in determining relationship success.
Something I did not know until recently: in Japan, your blood type is considered to be as indicative of your personality as, say, your horoscope.
So, just as in America, people check compatibility by astrological sign, in Japan, some people screen potential dates by .
When researchers Tieger and Barron-Tieger examined couples on the S/N, T/F, and J/P scales, they found that, in general, more similar couples experienced a higher rate of satisfaction with their partner.
However, there were some combinations that worked well despite having fewer preferences in common, and some pairings of similar partners that weren’t quite so successful.
But when researchers Barbara Barron-Tieger and Paul Tieger studied the personality type of several hundred couples, they found that the more type preferences a couple had in common, the more satisfied they were with their communication.