" If I'm feeling charitable, I answer honestly: "6-foot-2." They often follow-up with, "Do you ever date shorter men? And online, it's even more brutal: Women can calculate how tall they are in their highest heels, add a few inches for good measure, and then filter out men who fall below that sum.
I'll get there in a minute.)Women have internalized the message that it's better for us to be smaller.
This is essential to know—it's not just about shortness, but also skinniness.
(Webb is five-six, making that requirement just one inch shy of the eight-percent average.) "I wanted someone to overpower me, who could wrap his entire body around me in a hug, but who could also throw me down on a bed and ravish me," she writes.
"Someone who's smaller may be wonderful, but in my case he will never make me feel like he's in control." (To those of you who just thought , I agree.
Of course the ability to search for people who meet our criteria is part of the appeal of online dating.
But while women say they have a "type"—they love bearded gingers or get off on guys in glasses—they don't filter out man who doesn't meet those specific physical criteria. It's a sweeping prejudice masquerading as sexual preference.
To be bigger than men is to worry that you'll turn them off.
Webb found that it isn't just men lying about their height online, women do, too—to appear shorter. I've taken to giving my whiskey a single swirl, looking down my nose and saying slowly, "You are boring me. You would never walk up to a woman and open with, "What's your bra size?
(When one friend narrowed her Ok Cupid search to men taller than six feet and then complained about a boring date with some guy built like an NBA player, I laughed in her face.) Here's how I figure it: If a man is comfortable with the fact that I'm taller, he's also likely to be comfortable with the fact that I'm competitive and outgoing and career-oriented. To think of a world with all these new, gorgeous options.